KEEPING THE ROMANCE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP
So, you’ve been together over a year, and the spark that you once had has now fizzled out. The sex isn’t as great as it used to be, and the last time you received flowers, or cooked your partner a romantic meal was months ago. You stopped making one another feel special.
Relationships require hard work and effort. A good, healthy relationship doesn’t just fall into your lap. There are many ways in which you can keep the romance alive.
Do something different. Don’t stick to the same predictable routine. Try something completely new, whether it’s visiting a new place, bar, restaurant, something new in the bedroom, or perhaps out of the bedroom, not the usual: ten PM, lights off, same old. If you introduce new things to your relationship, you’ll have something to look forward to.
Surprise one another. Buy your partner a small gift. If you don’t have the money, then make a gift. You can’t to wrong with a card or love letter reminding them how you feel about them, a CD of their favourite songs, or a DIY photo album storing your favourite memories. Memory jars are also a nice touch – a jar full of strips of paper, which your partner selects a paper each day, with a written memory on it – times you have shared, thoughts you have of them etc. Transform your usual dinner together to a romantic meal for two. Bring out the wine, the candles, and make it special.
Put your partner first, not them always being second best to work, friends, family. Make them feel important by taking the time out to really sit and listen to them, and spending quality time together.
Have a date night once a week, or once or twice a month. Go out of the house, and away from the children, if you have any, whether it’s a bar, cinemas, a drink at a friend’s house. Really enjoy one another’s company. Even if it’s just a movie indoors, snuggled up together. Be that person that they fell in love with, avoiding stressful topics, such as work, money, or general life problems, and let go for one night.
If you want to keep the romance alive, work at it.
Don’t just tell your partner that you love them, show them!