The Most Important Relationship Of All


The most important relationship of all is the one that you have with yourself. If you don’t love yourself, then who will? Sometimes you need to take a step back, forget about everyone else, and concentrate on just ‘you.’

You need to enjoy your own company before you even begin to share your time with anybody else.

If you have low self esteem or a negative attitude toward life, you need to face the problem head on. Change your way of thinking, heal your mind. Only you can do something about it.

Whether it’s seeking professional help, or helping yourself, you may need to free your mind of stress. Practise yoga, meditate, exercise, do things that make you laugh such as watching a comedy, or socialising with friends, or other hobbies that make you happy. If you ignore certain feelings, they may get worse.

If a whole day to yourself seems daunting, then try a couple of hours to begin with. Do activities that will keep your mind busy. If you need confidence building, then perhaps buy some new make-up, colour your hair, have a pamper day at home, or maybe attend confidence building classes, group activities where you socialise with new people, i.e. dancing lessons, cooking lessons, the gym, a book club etc. To become confident, you must face any fears you have, taking it step by step. Read positive articles, self-help books, seek inspiration in someone that you admire. I highly recommend The Secret by Rhonda Byrne. The book inspires you to change every aspect of your life. You can turn any weakness or suffering into strength, power, unlimited abundance, health and joy.

If you’re single, don’t feel that in order to be happy that you need a boyfriend as this isn’t true. Relationships require work and effort, and if you aren’t in the right frame of mind, you may find this pressuring.

Being single is a time to truly focus on yourself. Achieve your goals, do something new that you have always wanted to do. Be selfish and think of number one.

If you’re in a relationship, then communicate with your partner. A problem shared is a problem halved. Really enjoy quality time together, but make sure that you still have time with ‘you.’

If you are happy, then you will attract happy and positive outcomes.

If however, you feel that your bad mood or low self esteem is as a result of other people, consider distancing yourself from them a little. Write a list of how they make you feel, and what they do that makes you feel a certain way. If someone offends you, or constantly criticises you, tell them to stop. Perhaps they don’t realise, or if they do, and continue to do it, ask yourself whether you want company like that. The more it goes on, the worse it will get. They say that people treat us the way that we allow them to. So put a stop to it.

Remember, you cannot live a positive life with a negative mind. Practice the following as much as you can, preferably daily: count your blessings, practice kindness, let go of what you can’t control, listen to your body, be productive yet calm, and breathe.